Personal growth is often imagined as becoming “better” — calmer, more confident, more disciplined. But deep psychological growth looks different. It involves becoming more whole. In depth psychology, the “shadow” refers to the parts of ourselves we have disowned, suppressed, or learned to hide. These may include anger, envy, insecurity, ambition, dependency, vulnerability, or even…
One of the most subtle, and most exhausting, patterns in relationships is the unconscious belief that we are responsible for how the other person feels. Many of us learn this early. We learn to read the room, anticipate moods, smooth over tension, and prevent discomfort. Over time, this can start to feel like love. But…
When life feels overwhelming, our minds do something very unhelpful. They zoom out. Suddenly you’re not facing one task — you’re facing your entire life at once. The messy kitchen becomes a symbol of failure. The unread emails feel like proof you’re falling behind. The hard conversation turns into a verdict about who you are.…